Saturday, July 26, 2008

the joys and not-so-joys of sex talk

because all i do is take everyone else's posts and use them for inspiration on my own blog (quick! tie down your blog posts or i will post them here ;)...today's inspiration comes from the uber curious collegehookerboy ...

CHB talks about the ins and outs of sex talk...which reminded me of my own experiences with sexually charged conversations...i am a very word-oriented person and aural stimulation does a lot for me...i enjoy using sex talk frequently...but it doesnt always work...for instance, you cant just come right out, in the middle of a conversation that has NOTHING remotely to do with sex in a nonchalant voice: so, you wanna such my cock?...because that does not work...my sexual arousal is directly related to the other person involved, so the more aroused they become the more aroused i become...there are a few people in the past that i was able to instantly become aroused when i heard their voice, irregardless of the content of conversation...arousal so intense that i would press my thighs together to alleviate some of the pressure that was building, the kind of pressure where you cannot sit still because all your girly bits are just screaming "fuck me!"...

what doesnt work for me is when a guy tries to call me his "slut"...hmm...it just never really turns me on....i mean, it may not turn me off completely, but it doesnt heighten the situation at all for me....i always wondered why that was...when a guy tries too much to tell me what to do and it involves too much direction: "you are my little slut, arent you...i want you to take your fingers and stick them in your ass...do it....do it"....stfu already, i will not do something that i dont want to do and when you keep insisting, it makes my desire go away....

i do like it when they use sexual conversation telling me how hard they get...i love love hearing how hard a guy is...because then it makes me want to feel that hardness...telling me you want to lick me and taste me is also really arousing....some guys can say "i want to fuck you so hard" and i am fucking horny as hell...other guys say the exact same thing and i get slighly irritated....no clue why...i think for some guys they just arent convincing and it feels like they are saying it to say it....i can hear it in a guy's voice when he hits that intense need to fuck....that overwhelming feeling of : my dick is so hard for you right now that i just want to feel my cock inside your wet pussy and hear the sounds of us fucking...i want you so bad that i am dripping so much pre-cum"...

*fans self*...is it getting hot in here?...

thoughts on sexual talk in/out of the bedroom?..

cg

11 curious people say...:

comfydildo said...

In daily conversation I always feel like the lazy know it all with her feet on the teacher's desk when I discuss sex. I just know so much more than my friends, and have tried so much more too. When talking with darling about it, I drool at his mere mention of a hard on. His talk in the bedroom is mostly limited to "I like that", or "do this instead" with an occasional "I love you, you look so beautiful" thrown in. On the phone, though, I love hearing him tell me what to do. There's something so sexy about the way he tells me how to play with myself. Though we don't talk like that much anymore. Pretty much sex is snuggly and comforting and phone conversations are for much of the same lately. I think our sex/sex talk reflects where we are and our needs. We communicate not only about sex but also through sex.

curiousgirl said...

@comfy - i tend to need more than one form of stimulation...i need stimulation several ways if possible...but i am like that in general...i need to be engaged on as many levels as possible, which is why i tend to do more than i possibly can do...but i do get a rush out of it...

cg

collegehookerboy said...

It's all about confidence, as you and I both say, and thats why one person can say one thing and be hot and the next can say the same thing and be completely unconvincing.

Its a dangerous game...

mnwhr said...

I've always found a woman telling me what she wants and how she wants it extremely arousing, for me the turn-on comes from her taking charge and really meaning what she says. I've had women say things that might actually be offensive at normal times, but during sex sounds too hot to ignore.

The Beautiful Kind said...

It's fun to think about how I have evolved when it comes to sex talk... I used to only want compliments ("you're so sexy, you're so hot"), but then I started getting into being called a slut, but didn't like being called a whore... nowadays one of my partner's pet names for me is "ungrateful whore" and I LOVE IT. HA it's so much fun.

Percy said...

damn cg.. this post does make me hard.. thinking of your 'girly bits' getting swollen... yummmmm

thedateabledork said...

Sex talk? Love it in the bedroom, love it out of the bedroom. Can't get enough, really. : )

I absolutely love it when a guy is verbal during sex - it is such a turn-on, and it gets me even more riled up and excited than I already am. I've also noticed that guys tend to be a little surprised when I start saying dirty little things, but then they get totally into it and ask for more. All in all, sex talk is a very good thing.

Lady in red said...

sex talk from the right person is very arousing but as you say the same words spoken by the wrong person just leave me at best uninterested and at worst completely cold.

when it is the right guy and I am in a receptive mood even the most innocent words can leave me a quivering heap of arousal.

jstnut said...

Sex talk ahhhhh . is like walking in a land mine. I would rather ask before I jump in. You may get blown up or blown. I absolutely love sex talk giving and receiving and during sex hearing her talk very dirty makes me explode. And over the phone or via text during the day makes for great foreplay.

Dav9saol said...

I firmly believe..the mind is what makes it...and to be erotic and sensual...you both have to be totally into it.

Its getting damn hot in here.....

the_beast_within said...

I love a vocal woman, in bed or just about sex in general. I love sex talk as well....hearing a woman climax has made me cum more than once. hearing just her arousal....her breathing, panting, and moaning, telling what she wants, what she needs....can get and keep me hard as steel for hours. Is absolutely awesome long-distance foreplay.