Friday, April 16, 2010

absence makes the heart grow fonder...

so they say...or, so someone once said...perhaps my absence has made your hearts grow more fond or fonder...which is grammatically correct? ...does it matter....

i've been meaning to update on the married friend i posted about a couple of posts ago...he read it and was a little upset...

anyhow, i did something that for sure many people would not do, but...here it goes...i gave him some money because he had nothing and, at the time, was snowing and he had no electricity...so...i gave him money for that, some gas, and food....

i did it as a friend, because there are times when i have needed help (not necessarily financially), and someone has freely given that assistance...he never asked for it either...i freely gave it, no strings...the question here is this: was there anyone else, a family member or other friend, that could have helped him out?...the answer is: not exactly...for whatever extenuating circumstances there are, he does not have that kind of relationship with them...it wasnt much, only $250...but it is an enormous amount when you dont have it...

here's a question for everyone (completely unrelated to the above information): if you arent physically attracted to someone, do you still go out with that person out of curiosity that something may develop or do you just keep it as friends?...the reason i ask is that someone i know has been asking me out a lot (i continually say no) and i am tempted to say yes for some unknown reason...if you ask me "do you like him"....i'd say...eh...i guess...the answer is "i should like him in "that" way"..but...i dont...at least i dont think i do...or do i just say that because i'd rather not fuss with it all...anyhow, i am thinking of say "yes" just for the hell of it...not sure why...i sometimes lack the ability to justify my answers...but then i realize...i dont always have to justify them, do i....

ah well...

cg

1 curious people say...:

Mr Upton Ogood said...

Pardon the intrusion...I was just passing by,as it were....anyhow... the physical attraction thing is key, I'm afraid. It doesn't magically show up after years of wedded bliss. If it ain't there going in, it ain't ever gonna be there. At least, that's my take on "the friend/acquaintance". YMMV.

As to gifting money: Polonious to Laertes.."Neither a lender nor a borrower be"...because you tend to lose both the friend and the money in the end.

So..after those two downer opinions, I'd like to add that do like the way you write.

Mr. Upton Ogood