Saturday, April 4, 2009

bringin' sexy back

a friend of mine has asked on several occasions...how do i talk to women...and keep their attention??...countless blogs have addressed the topic of what makes someone/something sexy...and that's all fine and dandy...but what about those out there who really want to know how to be sexy...instead of telling them what to do, perhaps we should focus on what NOT to do...

ready, boys and girls?

* a good black (not faded!) shirt goes a long way and can go virtually anywhere...black has a way of making both sexes look neat and clean and the added bonus of taking attention away from what you are wearing...when you wear black top, suddenly people are looking more at your face instead of thinking "um, what in the world does he have on??"...

* smell good!...it does not have to be an expensive cologne, but for heaven's sake, do not bathe in the scent or it will have the total reverse effect...there are several body washes out there for men that have a nice, clean, masculine scent it you dont want to over do it...i know several women who will actually salivate if the scent is right...and it's different for every woman...smell good and chances are she will find herself wanting to get closer to you just to smell you even more...

* make good eye contact and keep your hands to yourself!...men make the mistake of making physical contact too soon and it can be annoying to women (even though we try not to show it)...watch for cues...she will tilt her head, flip her hair a little, and keep her eyes on yours...if her eyes wander, she's not interested...

* be gracious...it's okay so stop by and say hi, make eye contact ( to let her know you interested) , but do not hang around like a tree monkey...also, do not take your whole posse over to the girl...be a man, show her that you are okay going solo to test the waters in front of her friends and then let her know that you recognize she is out with friends (if that is the case) and tell her you will stop by later...women dont expect this and it piques their interest...

* know when to fold'em....if she is not interested, extend your hand with a warm smile and tell her to have a nice evening....granted, this works down here in the south and i've been told that up north they arent as comfortable with the touching part, it's up to you how to carry it out...

* have no expectations...dont go out with a goal in mind...your only goal is to enjoy yourself...no matter where you go...whether to dinner, movies, museum, bar...you will spend too much time wondering the withertos and whyfors that the day will be gone and you will have wasted your time...

more next time!

(i'd love to hear what the other women have to say on this!!)

cg

5 curious people say...:

Aneris said...

You tell 'em, CG. You bossy little minx, you.

(I am glad you are right on your points.)

comfydildo said...

If you're funny, be funny but don't try too hard. Confidence is the most important thing, though. Good hygiene and confidence can win a girl for even the geekiest dude in a bar. Also, don't ask her what she does for a living. That kind of small talk is cheep and capitalist. Instead, ask her about interests or what she likes to do for fun. She'll know you want to see her as a whole person.

petitemort said...

Speaking from the other side of the fence, I must say these are excellent suggestions. I think confidence is the most important quality any man can project when approaching a woman for the first time. And if the woman isn't interested, move on to the next one.

mnwhr said...

I love the walk away with a handshake thing. I think it's would be a gracious way to exit, if done right.

bdenied said...

You echo my wife's sentiments too...usually being the one who sorts through the emails finding her potential FWB's I think I can relate to what you ladies go through....endless photos of their dicks, endless bragging of what they can do, they touch via email if that makes sense and they have no clue that personality will get them further than their 9inch dicks.....