Tuesday, November 25, 2008

stress, remembrance, and "sexy talk"

thanks to those of you who sent me emails...sometimes when i am away from here for an extended time i feel like you may wander off indefinitely...it's always nice to know that you care! :)

i have been very stressed off and on for the last year since my father passed away, although i did not realize it...the doctors seem to think that all that stress is giving me hormonal issues...up and down, in and out my hormones have raged...leaving me tearful, exhausted, and confused...for a woman with hormonal issues, this means problems with your monthly flow...not fun, let me tell you...

anyhow...this month was a tough one for me...it marked the one year anniversary of my father's death...and i had no idea how hard that was for me...at one point i was sitting on the floor, laughing about a particularly funny Thanksgiving, when i suddenly began to cry...i just miss him so much at times...the one man guaranteed to piss me off royally...but he understood me in ways that only one or two others can...i am my father's daughter...

earlier this week i was having an interesting conversation with my sister regarding what she calls "sexy talk"...evidently her current SO sucks big time in this department...she is trying to teach him, but he just laughs...he actually gets embarrassed...he isnt used to it...hard to imagine a 30 y/o man hesitant to try sex talk...reminds me of that mormon newlywed guy from "forgetting sarah marshall"...

is sex talk really that hard for men?...he couldnt even tell her "i want to fuck you"...he just erupted into fits of giggles...yes...giggles...he told her he always laughs when he talks about sex...he cant help it...

is this is a rarity or is this more common than this female realizes?...curious minds would like to know...

cg

11 curious people say...:

comfydildo said...

Glad you're back. Sorry things were sad. *hugs*

Darling's pretty non-verbal in the bedroom aside from occasionally telling me when something feels particularly good or that he loves me or that I'm beautiful or something. We used to have long phone and IM sex conversations when we were first dating. I dunno what happened over the years.

Percy said...

Glad you are back.

Percy said...

loosing a father is hard, I lost mine 5 months ago. But I think for a daughter is more difficult.
Take care.

my word verification "womin"
:)

wingnut said...

In response to your question, I'll leave history to speak for itself.

Good to see you're alive and kickin'.

NWO said...

Glad you're back! You were missed. Back, damn hormones!

Merlin said...

Welcome back, cg. As someone who lost his father when he was 18, I certainly understand and appreciate your sense of loss.

Regarding "sex talk," many people have problems talking about sex, even with lovers. As a society, we teach children and young adults that sex is to be hidden and secretive rather than open and celebrated, so it's no wonder many people are unable to discuss it in an intelligent manner, much less use speech effectively to arouse their partners.

Maybe this SO will learn, eventually, that he won't get warts all over his hands if he asks his woman to fuck.

Sucre Bebe said...

CG, you know I was worried. I also extend my sympathies.

Many guys are a bit shy when it comes to sex talk. But maybe less talking equals more action!

bdenied said...

men want you to think they are up on all the sex things but in reality they are not....and most have no idea how to handle a truly sexual woman

curiousgirl said...

@comfy - maybe you should read bdenied's comment...i know you are trying to kick things into gear...chin up...

@percy - i think one word verification i had was something sexual but i forgot...

@wingnut - lol...history does speak for itself...alive and kicking??...do i get to kick someone??...

@nwo - if only hormones were so easily managed...i imagine you as a knight in dull armor fending off the rabid hormones with with a stick...lmao...hehehehe...now THAT made me laugh...

@merlin - thanks...good point too about the taboo aspect...but what about those who enjoy the taboo as it pertains to all things sexual?...if we were always completely open, where would that leave those?...just a random thought...

@sugarbaby - we sooo need to talk soon!...let me know when you will be around :D

@bdenied - i love this comment...very on the money...damn...did you ever post about that topic we discussed?...wasnt sure if you had or not...let me know, pls...

cg

Aneris said...

Most men are just ready to get right to it, conversation be damned!!

mnwhr said...

Glad you're back.