Saturday, February 23, 2008

this isnt burger king

that's what i told this guy, T, who's been chasing after me for quite some time now...his last relationship involved a dom/sub component where she was the sub...um, that is NOT me...and i have made that crystal clear...we were talking this morning over coffee (which i dont drink, tea, please!)...and he wants more, a lot more...but he is way too damn pushy...granted, a woman likes to hear a man say "i want you"...but, damn, when we are talking and the second thing out of your mouth is "i want you, invite me over"...whoa, major turn-off...where's the conversation?...we've talked before, he says...so...uh...does that mean i'm not worthy of more conversation?...woo, me dammit...dont just sit there and tell me to my face that you want to fuck me because you feel a connection...guess what, i am in charge of where the plug goes, and so far it is sitting limp in my hands!...

his problem, i tell him, is that he is in a position of power at his work...the man has three houses...one for his kids, one for his ex, and one for himself...he and his ex alternate staying in the house with the kids so that they dont have to be dragged around every which way...sounds amazing, right?...but then he says the ex doesnt work because he wants her to be there for the kids...too much control for me...

this isnt burger king, this isnt your way right away...i am not some main course that you can complain to management about because it didnt come out on time...then he tells me "but i have been so patient with you"...so then i ask him "define your concept of patience"...

well, how long have i been chasing you?...

oh boy...he doesnt get it...so i tell him "that has nothing to do with patience...that is persistence"...the look on his face...he realized i was right...guys, a woman doesnt want to be pushed so far that she feels she has two options...jump off the cliff and hope that in death she can escape from your nobby little clutches...or pull back her fist and WHAM!...beware...more women fight back with a vengeance than men are willing to admit...

after all this...he tells me..."you're in a mood to fight, i came here in a mood for you"...wtf???...i am not fighting, i am merely pointing out the inconsistencies involved in his ludicrous assumptions of how to pursue a woman...i told him he was making gross assumptions...he said no, you are playing games...you know i want you, i have been patient yet you still refuse me...um...whatever...i told him that he needed to hear the word no more often because i was not his "beck and call-girl"...

grrr...men are so heinous at times i just want to throttle them...damn, time to go take a test...freakin terrific...

cg

2 curious people say...:

Percy said...

the guy is used to getting what he wants.. he wants you and can't get you... he is very frustrated...
seems like you are handling him good though..

curiousgirl said...

he essentially wants to "keep" me...i am so not impressed...